Ask yourself, what am I primarially building? Is it a skill set, or a lifestyle? A skill set is a framework, and a specific set of tools, to be used in varying situations. It’s like having all the crayons in the box. A lifestyle is something that becomes what you are. Think Hugh Hefner as a prime example. Does he have to go out, and meet women from scratch, or introduce his brand and overall business plan to people? NO! He probably hasnt had to to that in the past 40 years, unless he wanted to. He built a lifestyle that brings the what he wants to him.
I have personally, lived on both sides of the equation. In college, I had a lifestyle, because of involvement with a campus org, but not the skills to truly make it work. Meeting people, and making good business connections gets harder after college, so take note, university people. You start from zero, and build attraction, to yourself, or your plan, and slowly people become comfortable with you.. It’s a hard road, as people likely don’t know you from anyone, but the skills learned are vital.
More recently, through Nightlife, I have started to build a lifestyle. We work with several local venues, and know many of the regulars and staff. When you walk into a venue, and many of the staff, and people know you already, your life meeting people, and making business connections there is much easier. THEN, it is time to use skills, to close it out, as you are already half the way there. Social proof and status, is a very strong component. As is safety. People’s defenses will not go up when half the place knows you, vs being some yahoo that no one knows, or has heard of.
In closing, I believe that learning the skillset FIRST, then learning to leverage it through a lifestyle is a wise move. Think about what you do when you go out. Do the staff where you go know you? Do you have friends there? Are you there for any reason other than to have a few, and talk to girls? Have you learned a method, and are building on it? I’d urge you to have a vehicle, or system, that allows you to build a lifestyle, where good people, and things come to you.
Leveraging a lifestyle to bring the things I’m after into my life is my dream. What is yours? 
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