power of words

The Power of Positive Affirmations Part II

by admin on February 18, 2010

**If you haven’t read it yet, please read The Power of Positive Affirmations as this is a continuation related to the previous post.**

Below are some specific affirmations in related categories for working on specific issues:
(Thanks to Vital Affirmations.com for the material. For more please visit their site.)

Affirmations for Abundance
-I prosper wherever I turn and I know that I deserve prosperity of all kinds
-The more grateful I am, the more reasons I find to be grateful
-I pay my bills with love as I know abundance flows freely through me.

Affirmations for Love
-I know that I deserve Love and accept it now
-I give out Love and it is returned to me multiplied
-I rejoice in the Love I encounter everyday

Affirmations for Romance
-I have a wonderful partner and we are both happy and at peace
-I release any desperation and allow love to find me
-I attract only healthy relationships

Affirmations for Self Esteem
-When I believe in myself, so do others
-I express my needs and feelings
-I am my own unique self – special, creative and wonderful

Affirmations for Peace and Harmony
-All my relationships are loving and harmonious
-I am at peace
-I trust in the process of life

Affirmations for Joy and Happiness
-Life is a joy filled with delightful surprises
-My life is a joy filled with love, fun and friendship all I need do is stop all criticism, forgive, relax and be open.
-I choose love, joy and freedom, open my heart and allow wonderful things to flow into my life.

What are some of the positive things you say to yourself?

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The Power of Positive Affirmations

by admin on February 16, 2010

“As a man thinks in his heart; so is he”-Proverbs 23:7

“What we think, we become.” -Buddha

“You are what you think you are: what you think YOU ARE!”-unknown

Sources throughout the ages have pointed to one’s thought life as a huge key to our attitude, beliefs, and overall success in life. That wisdom is no less relevant today. In fact, it may be more important than ever. Now this isn’t some voodoo “The Secret” type of B.S. Don’t expect to be able to “manifest parking spaces,” or other things as some yahoos I’ve heard have claimed.

However, thoughts are things. Every great invention, innovation, or concept, was an idea or vision long before it came to fruition. You achieve that for which you aim. If your thoughts center on your personal inadequacies, your lack of opportunity, or resources, those thoughts will come to pass. If instead you focus your thoughts on opportunities, and what can be done, the doors of possibility will be opened to you.

***A short aside: I encountered mental resistance while writing this. The thoughts of “you’ve not ready to write something this important, or possibly impacting. You still struggle with this issue. Who are YOU to try to help people focus their thoughts on such things? Your not qualified to write this.“ Yet I press on, that I may put what I’ve learned here for those who will read this.***

Getting Started:

1. Grab a sheet of paper and a pen, and go to a place of solitude. You’re about to to do some mental heavy lifting, and a place where you can be alone with your thoughts, and truly honest with yourself, is the best way. Tune out all distractions, and turn up some music if this helps you. (I personally do my best work with some Led Zeppelin, Metallica, or Godsmack blasting through my Koss headphones.)

2. On the sheet of paper, write out the negative things people have said about you over your lifetime, and the negative things you say about yourself. Give yourself at LEAST 30 minutes for this. Don’t be afraid to put anything down, especially the most hurtful ones.

3. Look over the list, and rank the negative beliefs from the most hurtful and damaging to being who you want to be, to the least. Then take the top ten most influencing thoughts or beliefs, and rewrite them as a positive on a 3×5 card. For example, instead of the limiting belief of “I don’t have the money or experience to be successful,” write “I have all the resources needed to be successful. I am sufficent.”

4. Take the 3×5 card, and put it in your wallet, purse, dashboard, cubicle, or bathroom mirror. It may behoove you to have several copies, so you can repeat them to yourself, wherever, and whenever negative thoughts strike.

5. On a daily basis, for at least 30 days straight, look yourself in the mirror, and repeat these awesome statements to yourself. In the morning, and before bed are the best times. Yes, it may seem a bit silly at first. That’s ok. Shut the bathroom door, and crank up some music if need be, if your spouse or whomever may not understand. Feel free to get loud, and passionate.

6. After the 30 days, evaluate your thought patterns, and your progress. You WILL see changes in the first 30 days, so write them down, and compare them to what you thought before. You started, and enjoy the progress you have made.

7. Repeat the process of steps 1-6 with any specific issues that seem to crop up, or you feel like you’ve plateaued, or have hit a wall. This will help to keep your sights set ever higher, and you moving forward as a person.

Originator says about the process:
“Over time, you will start to notice your core beliefs change, it is a subtle shift in the subconscious response, but may be an overnight shift in conscious thinking, as you are made aware of plenty of negative loops you are running. It will be amazing to see your autopilot responses shifting towards the suggestions contained within. You will be like, “where did that come from, I just really asserted my self in that situation.”

Honestly, 30 days is not enough, but also too, a constant guarding of your mind from external influences is mandatory. You use the affirmations as often as possible to force your thoughts and dreams to a place YOU want to move towards. This is a life long process, not a one time fix. “

How do you conquer your doubts, and negative thoughts?

What do you focus on in tough times, or say to yourself to keep your self positive?

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The Power of Words

by admin on February 11, 2010

**Today’s post is a guest post by Peter Grimm.**

Gents,

Here’s something that I’m working on currently. Cooking up in the pot-o-grimm.

I was talking to a girl i found attractive, and I made a statement to which she responded “THAT’S REALLY ATTRACTIVE.” I was intuitively a bit PUT OFF for a split second, after which I came to and realized what she told me was a good thing and proceeded to make out with the girl right then and there without responding. But at that moment I couldn’t really understand why originally it had bothered me.

Later, I would break it down and I figured out that what bothered me was that while she said “THAT’S really attractive,” what she MORE ACCURATELY should have said (or at least what I interpreted her to mean and thus reversed direction and rewarded with the makeout) is “I FEEL ATTRACTED.” I mean, it may seem like no big deal, but gentlemen… consider what is being sub-communicated.

Is she the ultimate decider of what is and isn’t attractive, or how can she say “THAT IS ATTRACTIVE” with such authority? OR is she merely trying to express that she finds me attractive at the moment, lacking certain fine communication skills to correctly identify a feeling and put words to it? (again, this is how I chose to interpret her, split second) Am I guilty of the same poor communication?? And thus begins my post.

Words and language have a powerful effect on the brain. BE AWARE OF IT. That’s the point of the post. Now for some details.

I am working on eliminating 3 things from my language, and thus from my being.
1.) value statements
2.) labels
3.) comparisons.

Here’s why:

**On a “nuts and bolts” level, approach anxiety and social phobia stem from too much self-evaluation on a subconscious level.**

But how does the subconscious know what mental processes to undergo when, say, you are talking to women? Gents, your subconscious mind does what it is TRAINED to do. Neuronal pathways are like muscles, and muscles have memory. Training your brain to undergo evaluative processes that cause anxiety is a little like training your body to hit a jump shot in basketball, or a golf swing. At first it is difficult, but after some practice your deeper brain is able to take over the process and you are able to think about other things, such as defenders, without even worrying about the mechanics of the shot. The shot becomes automatic.

Therefore in order to train your mind to think in a way that does not induce anxiety, (in you or in her), I am theorizing that you need to change the way you think ALL THE TIME. And if EVALUATION is what causes anxiety, then what you really need to do is to get rid of these thought processes from your mind completely.

So what are they?

Value judgements. Words like “good, bad, cool, and uncool.” Note that they can be either positive or negative.

Here is an example: Let’s say I say “He is GOOD at meeting women.” Is that REALLY what I’m trying to say?? Nope. Something like “He seems to have a number of women attracted to him” is MUCH better. Not only is it more descriptive, but it trains the brain to be accurate and in the moment, rather than rely on value words like “good, or bad” which have a lot of emotion attached to them at a deep level.

Another example: Something that might come up from your subconscious mind when looking at that perfect 10: “I’m not good-looking enough.” Well, if this is sitting in your subconscious, you will assuredly have anxiety. However, had you trained your brain to not use words like “good and bad” you would instead have your inner brain telling you “this girl most likely prefers guys who look XYZ” which is MUCH more manageable. You could then learn to go out not to pick her up, but to simply meet her and find out whether your suspicion is correct or if you are mistaken.

2.) labels

3.) comparisons

The above to are pretty much the same. Stay Tuned for Part 2 of this post for more.
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Peter Grimm is a man both mysterious and powerful, whose power is only exceeded by his mystery.

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